最近发现连话都不会说了 无法表达内心的想法 唯一不会觉得有压力的时候就是和黄胖子讲话 但是她老看着我 保持沉默 我是真的因为一个人太久了 就快变成an old maid with a cat了吗。。。
听说这部电影很久了 但是因为是关于爱情的 一直不想碰 还好的是 影片真可谓温馨小笑话外加不用动脑的大团圆结局 真惊奇里面的台词竟是这两年在网络上很火的“爱情名言” 还想再看一边英文字幕版的
一直相信并敬畏岁月的力量 让一个不成熟 自认为满腹至理名言 懂得感情的青涩男生 逐渐演变成会为了婚姻生活费尽脑筋 很想要抓住逝去感情却无可奈何的成熟男人 原来稚嫩的脸上可能长出了络腮胡 眼神可能没有以前那么犀利 身材可能走样 有时候甚至透着中年男人特有的中年味 可那就是他们的魅力所在 经过时间的雕琢 原来的棱角被逐渐打磨光滑 却也看透了世间种种 对人生有了更深刻的思考 亦有可能 经过一段感情的磨练 开始更好的第二人生 ps. 并不是所有棱角被打磨的中年男人都具有如此魅力 前提是他仍然拥有自己的原则和想法
Harry和Sally初次见面时 还能看出彼此间的青涩 稚嫩 任何一个话题都能引起俩人的争执 而六年后的他们 并肩漫步 Sally对着Harry哈哈大笑 Harry说 你变了 你比以前柔和多了
六年后的Sally 说话时仍和以前一样喜欢抬着头 眼神里透着骄傲和自豪 她从来没有因为自己点餐时的过分挑剔而尴尬过 她总是理直气壮的说 我只是要我想要的 这么有魅力的女人！
这是一部让我觉得很轻松 很感动 想着就很想笑的片子 看Sally六年后重逢Harry 和他讲述她和Joe的感情和分手的时候 直接戳中泪点 :
"We didn't wanna get married because every time anyone we knew got married,it ruined their relationship.They practically never had sex again.It's true.That's one of the secrets that no one ever tells you.""Joe and i would say' We're so lucky.We have this wonderful relationship.We can have sex on the kitchen floor and not worry about the kids walking in.We can fly off to Rome on a moment's notice."
"Then one day i was taking Alice's girl for the afternoon.cos i promised to take her to the circus.We went in the cab playing I-spy.And she looked out the window and she saw this man and woman with these two little kids,and the man had one of the kids on his shoulders.And she said' I spy a faily'.And i staryted to cry.You know, I just strated crying."
之前有个在微博上被狂转发的帖子 是说一个女生不管再势力 再现实 对她来说 最重要的还是婚姻 她只是对婚姻的对象不敢肯定 当Sally哽咽着说出这些字眼的时候 她简直是剖开心脏在若无其事 她觉得她很好 "I don't miss him at all.I just miss the concept of him." 但是知道Joe要结婚以后 尽管已经三十的她 还是哭的像是六年前在她脸上还能看出稚嫩的孩子 就像Harry离婚后 依然和不同的女人发生关系 却从没忘记过自己的妻子 偶遇前妻和现在的丈夫后 他终于爆发了 那段对婚姻的见解大概是所有现在对婚姻恐惧的人的心声吧：
"Right now everything is just great.Everyone is happy and in love,and that's wonderful.But sooner or later, you'll be screaming at each other about who'll get this dish!"
其实到影片最后 我也没有真的感觉到Harry和Sally是不是真的忘记了之前感情的创痛 还是经过了时间的撮合 从最好的朋友变成情人 没有人知道一份感情的保质期是多少 就像之前有个朋友告诉我 婚姻长久的最好秘诀就是先结婚再恋爱 虽然个人觉得这对自己很不负责任 再加上在现在离婚率如此之高的时代 估计也没什么帮助吧
最好的感情是细水长流 但是拥有这样的感情 还是得天时地利人和吧
Fraud said: "the fear of intimacy – the chronic and overpowering feeling
that emotional closeness will seriously hurt or destroy us and that we
can remain emotionally safe only remaining at an emotional distance from
others at all times."
When Harry met Sally, they believed there exist friendship between men and women，but finally they still fell in love with each other and got married，wow....I would like to say it's really confused me...I mean, I love happy ending but I still cast some doubt on their marriage, is it really for love? Or just for having been used to get along with this guy and can not lead the life without him (or her)?
At the first time when Harry met Sally, he said: Men and women can never really be friends, because "the sex always gets in way", and Sally's response was totally opposite. They are in different worlds, different attitude toward life and love.
When they met again after 5 years, Harry was going to marry with Helen, and Sally was just in a new relationship with Joe. And Harry asked Sally to be his friend, the reason is that they already have partners and they will not fall in love with each other. But Sally refused.
Maybe their fates are joked by God, they met in 5 years again. In that time, Sally just broke up with Joe, while Harry was divorced with Helen. Without these tragedies happened to them, I think they can't be best friend forever. They came to understand each other and got to know what men and women really want and think.
Since then, they can do everything with each other except having sex, this kind of safe relationship enable them to release themselves without fear of abandonment, which makes them feel relaxed and comfortable. Their unconsciousness，especially for two souls who just had a badly emotional experiences，avoided them to involve in a meaningful relationship, they thought they would never get hurt.
But something they feared most still happened in an irrational state. After having sex, everything become wired, seems that the relationship between them should have a new definition. Once a relationship was given meaning and obligation, people will be anxious and loose sense of safety. This is the fact that many people are always unwilling to face.
I saw many couples are not happy when they married, but why we still think it necessary to marry with someone in a proper time? Why we appreciate some kind of stories like “To hold your hand, to grow old with you执子之手与子偕老”? Why?
People claimed that: Because we love each other!!
There is a great deal of truth of that, yet If a man and a woman fall in love, they don't need to marry, they can choose to be lovers forever, I think. The truth I believed is that no one can avoid the fear of loneliness during their whole life. People married just want to guarentee their life and need a home for soul.
Sally and Harry married at last, become couples from friends. They don’t need to experience the period of adjustment, which includes conflicts、distrust and misunderstand，as other couple experienced.
Maybe this is the ideal of marriage：Marry with someone who knows your defects but still loves you and never abandons you…
And if today someone ask me whether men and women can be really friends or not, I would definitely say yes. We believe in god, we believe the existence of alien, so why can't we believe this wonderful thing in this world? Haha!! Nothing is impossible!!
Men and Women Can Never Be Friends：
Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not!
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: I guess not.
Sally: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
Sally: Well, if you must know, it was because he was very jealous, and I
had these days of the week
Harry: Ehhhh! I'm sorry. I need the judges ruling on this. "Days of the weeks underpants"?
Sally: Yes. They had the days of the week on them, and I thought they were sort of funny. And then one
day Sheldon says to me, "You never wear Sunday." It was all suspicious. Where was Sunday? Where
had I left Sunday? And I told him, and he didn't believe me.
Sally: They don't make Sunday.
Harry: Why not?
Sally: Because of God.
High maintenance and low maintenance：
Sally: I'd like the chef salad please with oil and vinegar on the side,
and the apple pie a la mode.
Waitress: Chef and apple a la mode.
Sally: But I'd like the pie heated, and I don't want the ice cream on top. I want it on the side, and I'd like strawberry instead of vanilla if you have it. If not, then no ice cream, just whipped cream, but only if it's real. If it's out of the can, then nothing.
Waitress: Not even the pie?
Sally: No, just the pie, but then not heated.
Harry: Right now everything is great, everyone is happy, everyone is in
love and that is wonderful! But you gotta know that sooner or later
you're gonna be screaming at each other about who's gonna get this dish.
This eight dollar dish will cost you a thousand dollars in phone calls
to the legal firm of That's Mine, This Is Yours.
Harry: Please, Jess, Marie. Do me a favor, for your own good, put your name in your books right now before they get mixed up and you won't know whose is whose. 'Cause someday, believe it or not, you'll go 15 rounds over who's gonna get this coffee table. This stupid, wagon wheel, Roy Rogers, garage sale COFFEE TABLE!
Jess: I thought you liked it!?
Harry: I was being nice!
Basic nightmare date of your ex：
Sally: Is Harry bringing anybody to the wedding?
Marie: I don't think so.
Sally: Is he seeing anybody?
Marie: He was seeing this anthropologist, but...
Sally: What's she look like?
Marie: Thin. Pretty. Big tits. Your basic nightmare.
Getting Back Together：
Sally: You see? That is just like you, Harry. You say things like that, and you make it impossible for me to hate you一贯不哪部电影里的台词能记得如新，因为那部影片变得直接碎碎念。!
Harry: Had my dream again where I'm making love, and the Olympic judges are watching. I'd nailed the compulsaries, so this is it, the finals. I got a 9.8 from the Canadians, a perfect 10 from the Americans, and my mother, disguised as an East German judge, gave me a 5.6. Must have been the dismount.
Harry: You know, I have a theory that heirogliphics are just an ancient comic strip about a character named Sphinxy.
Harry Burns: And was it worth it? The sacrifice for a friend you dont
even keep in touch with?
Sally Albright: Harry, you might not believe this, but I never considered not sleeping with you a sacrifice.
Should you take your significant other to the airport?
Harry Burns: You take someone to the airport, its clearly the beginning
of the relationship. Thats why I have never taken anyone to the airport
at the beginning of a relationship.
Sally Albright: Why?
Harry Burns: Because eventually things move on and you dont take someone to the airport and I never wanted anyone to say to me, How come you never take me to the airport anymore?
Sally Albright: Its amazing. You look like a normal person but actually you are the angel of death.
Can women and men be friends? Take Two
Harry: Would you like to have dinner? ...Just friends.
Sally: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.
Harry: When did I say that?
Sally: On the ride to New York.
Harry: No, no, no, I never said that. ...Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are
involved with other people, then they can. ...This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted. ...That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do
you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.
High maintenance and low maintenance, take two
Harry Burns: There are two kinds of women: high maintenance and low
Sally Albright: Which one am I?
Harry Burns:You're the worst kind. You're high maintenance but you think you're low maintenance.
Sally Albright: You know, I'm so glad I never got involved with you. I just would have ended up being some woman you had to get up out of bed and leave at 3:00 in the morning and go clean your andirons, and you dont even have a fireplace, not that I would know this.
[Harry and Sally discussing orgasms]
Sally Albright: Most women at one time or another have faked it.
Harry Burns: Well, they haven't faked it with me.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because I know.
Sally Albright: Oh. Right. Thats right. I forgot. You're a man.
Harry Burns: What was that supposed to mean?
Sally Albright: Nothing. Its just that all men are sure it never happened to them and all women at one
time or other have done it so you do the math.
Rest of your life：
Harry Burns:I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
Harry: Shel? Sheldon? No. You did not have great sex with Sheldon.
Sally: I did too.
Harry: No. A Sheldon can do your income taxes. If you need a root canal, Sheldon's your man. But humping and pumping are not Sheldon's strong suits. It's the name. Do it to me, Sheldon. You're an animal, Sheldon. Ride me, big Sheldon. It doesn't work.
Sally: Amanda mentioned you had a dark side.
Harry: That's what drew her to me.
Sally: Your dark side?
Harry: Sure. Why? Don't you have a dark side? I know, you're probably one of those cheerful people
who dot their "i's" with little hearts.
Sally: I have just as much of a dark side as the next person.
Harry: Oh, really? When I buy a new book, I read the last page first. That way, in case I die before I finish, I know how it ends. That, my friend, is a dark side.
Marie: All I'm saying is that somewhere out there is the man you are supposed to marry. And if you don't get him first, somebody else will, and you'll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that somebody else is married to your husband
Harry: You know how a year to a person is like seven years to a dog?
Sally: Is one of us supposed to be a DOG in this scenario?
Sally: Who is the dog?
Harry: You are.
Sally: I am? I am the dog? I am the dog?
Jess: You made a woman meow?
Dating a married man：
Marie: The point is, he just spent $120 on a new nightgown for his wife.
I don't think he's ever gonna leave her.
Sally: No one thinks he's ever gonna leave her.
Marie: You're right, you're right, I know you're right.
Harry Burns: The fact that you're not answering leads me to believe that (a) You're not home, (b) You're home but you don't want to talk to me, or (c) You're home, desperately want to talk to me, but you're trapped under something heavy. If it's either (a) or (c), please give me a call.
“I love you”：
Harry:I've been doing a lot of thinking, and the thing is, I love you.
皇家国际官网，Harry: I love you.
Sally: How do you expect me to respond to this?
Harry: How about, 'You love me too'?
Sally: How about, 'I'm leaving.'
Harry: Doesn't what I've said mean anything to you?
Sally: I'm sorry Harry, I know it's New Year's Eve, I know you're feeling lonely, but you can't just show up here, tell me you love me and expect everything to be all right. It doesn't work that way.
Harry: Well how does it work?
Sally: I don't know, but not this way. (Walking away)
Harry: Well how about this way. I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out, I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich, I love when you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts, I love that after I've spent the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible.